I do not believe that we are fully responsible for our lives. We are conditioned by our past, by circumstances and events that we cannot control. But we can answer many challenges of life.
I do not believe that people come to psychotherapy out of curiosity. They come from dissatisfaction and pain. But in therapy we can learn, accept and change a lot.
I do not believe in self-sufficiency. We are people and need proximity. We are dependent. But we can achieve some autonomy and stability, come to a state in which it will be interesting, fascinating and warm with ourselves.
I do not believe in adulthood and maturity, as the opposite of childhood. There are no adults. But I know that in therapy you can develop the ability to withstand uncertainty, to cope with challenges on your own, to ask for and accept the help of others.
I do not believe in the opportunity to build ideal relationships by “working” on them. We ourselves are not perfect and live in an imperfect world. But we can work on ourselves and do a lot so that relations help to grow, bring joy and warmth to us and the person next to us.
I do not believe in people without trauma and neuroses. Only they make us human.
I do not believe in reasoning and speculations. Behind any conviction, idea, even mathematical formula is an emotional need, feelings and sensations. But I know that we can understand a lot, and the understandable can become our reassurance and support.
I believe in the veracity of the body, its depth and wisdom.
I do not believe in “painful, expensive, without guarantees” therapy. The client brings pain with him. Sometimes therapy occurs by alleviating this pain. Sometimes laughter is more healing than tears.
Compared to cosmetic procedures and auto repairs, psychotherapy is not expensive.
Compared with higher education, studying the most important subject – yourself, does not take too much time.
And I do not believe that a sincere conversation, the only topic of which is the client, may be invaluable.
I do not believe that I can “heal”, change or help the client. But the client can do it himself if I am sincerely and fully present.
I work in the Gestalt approach with special attention to the body.
Specialization: body resources in the Gestalt approach.
Specializations in the process:
– couples psychotherapy (Marguerite Spanollo Lobb),
– Bodymind Gestalt (Arie Burshtein).
Russian, Ukrainian, and the English languages. In person and online.
For individual therapy or couples therapy, please contact me: